How aware are you of the past issues you’re bringing into your current relationship? This isn’t just about new relationships, but also ones you’ve been in for years, even those you’ve been married in for a long time.
Why It Matters:
“When we are unaware of our own projections, we are condemned to repeat them.” (Hollis, 1998, p. 143)
If you don’t recognize these patterns, you might keep repeating them, stopping both you and your partner from growing.
How to Create True Intimacy:
“Only by individuating can we have relationships that are truly intimate and not merely the mutual projection of needs.” (Hollis, 1998, p. 145)
Steps to Take:
- Journal: Write about your thoughts and feelings.
- Therapy: Consider seeing a therapist to help understand these patterns.
- Reflect: Talk with your partner or someone you trust about your childhood experiences and how they affect your relationship.
By becoming aware of these issues, you can make your relationship more meaningful and fulfilling.
Disclaimer: This post is for general information only and doesn’t replace professional therapy or counseling. If you need help, please talk to a licensed therapist.
